So.
1. We need Persuasive Conversations to survive. Persuasive Conversations can be Organic. Most persuasive conversations aren’t.
2. In sales and marketing, most Persuasive Conversation is Hustling. For the purpose of this blog, Hustling is defined as cajoling or swindling by individuals, groups and institutions into doing or buying something they don’t necessarily want or need.
3. Individuals, groups and institutions that are Hustled oftentimes regret doing or buying the thing the Hustlers had them buy or do. This makes future Persuasive Conversations for the Hustler and everyone else more difficult, because people, groups and organizations will think twice the next time.
4. Because of the internet, people, groups and organizations have tools readily available to them to think twice the first time. Hustlers are now one Google search result away from being found out and having their racket systematically destroyed.
5. Therefore, it is a matter of time before Hustling on the larger scale is practically impossible. In many ways, it already is. In the future, Hustling will be seen as a comedic and anachronistic practice that can only achieved on a one-to-one, one-off basis.
6. The key skill for Persuasive Conversationalists to learn is how to be a Connector.
In other words, Persuasive Conversationalists will have to do a brilliant job:
A. Finding and connecting to the people, groups and organizations to which their offering is suited.
B. Relating to, and understanding the needs of the people, groups and organizations to which their offering is suited.
C. Articulating their offering to the people, groups and organizations to which their offering is suited.
D. Presenting a clear proposal to people, groups and organizations to which their offering is suited.
E. Knowing when to shut up and leave people, groups and organizations alone when the proposal has been accepted or rejected – such that future opportunities are possible with a person, group or organization that has left the Persuasive Conversation informed and empowered to make smart decisions for themselves.
7. Connectors have more diverse skills than the hustler. A Hustler just has an act.
8. Hustlers, like all Inorganic Conversationalists, face an inevitable slump and will find themselves desperately persuading from hand to mouth and/or failing altogether by being slick, dishonest, patronizing and self-absorbed.
9. Connectors, on the other hand, have the opportunity to create sustainable momentum through being intelligent, honest and respectful of the time and needs of others.
10. A great place to dig deeper on Connecting vs. Hustling is Project VRM. The people involved are working on finding ways for people, groups and organizations to connect with Persuasive Conversations on offerings that they want, when they want them.
